Lilly
Member
The drama only matters so much to you because you choose to let it bother you instead of simply ignoring it and continuing to play the game/interact with the rest of the community.
This was a hard-learned lesson for me.
I used to let another online group's problems consume my thoughts too much. Then, I got this job working in a hospital, and slowly but surely- Something happened. Those interpersonal conflicts of a petty nature, I don't worry about them anymore. (Especially if it wasn't my business to know.) I don't let them carry weight on my day-to-day thoughts.
When presented with the uncomfortable nature of our mortality, on more occasions than I should admit, those small-minded things don't register. You start to realize you were looking at life through a straw.
And we don't need to subject ourselves to extreme suffering to learn that. Any emotional distance we give ourselves from the goings on of life can give us the clarity to consider "And why are we so fixated on this?". Hobbies are very good for this, even.
It is so childish for us to waste 4-6 hours a day writing angry, argumentative, combative essays on the Internet. This is what happens when we humans care too much, and take everything too seriously; none of the meaningful change we want can come from that toxic mindset.
Life is better spent on maintaining our friendships and hobbies; not a "hobby" so fake and wasteful as burning bridges, like social media is so deeply entrenched in doing.
The time we give to "drama" is absolutely a choice.