First I have aspergers: a type of autism were I say/type stuff in the wrong way so thanks for rubbing it. I meant to say "It take time to be good at matches" not "LOL GET REKT SON!!!111one" and rails are only good when trolling or sniping.
Okay, time-out. There is some stuff that you
really need to know here:
A: You should not expect people to know about or compensate for your autism. Miscommunication happens - do your best to be clear, and to see how your statements might be interpreted incorrectly.
B: You are not being forced to interpret body language or any other non-verbal communication, nor do you have to respond to anyone in real time - you are perfectly capable of understanding other people and taking the time to communicate effectively.
C: Telling people "Lay off and/or feel bad because [unverifiable meat-space reason] never, ever works, and will usually do the opposite of what you intend. This is doubly true if it's used to claim that there was nothing you could have done. None of that changes one bit if the reason given is the truth, either.
D: If you have a disagreement, or need to make a correction to someone else's interpretation of your words,
be polite about it,
and give the benefit of the doubt. Getting worked up and angry at someone else for what is probably just a mistake is childish, and will do no favors to your image in anyone else's eyes. If the other person turns out to
actually be an asshole, the heat will come down on them, not you, so long as you keep civil.
And don't get smug about keeping civil, either, since that's anything but.
E: At a conservative estimate, maybe about 1 in 10 people in this community are on the spectrum in
some form or another: Including myself, since I've also been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, just like you. Autism simply does not excuse you from any standards of behavior on the board, nor does it mean you should expect any concessions from its users.
Whether it's an autism-spectrum condition, other mental disabilities, English as a second language, or even just being really young, the expectation here is that if something is hindering you from functioning as a good member of the community, the burden of that rests solely on your shoulders - it doesn't mean we have to make accommodations, it means you have to work harder to make up for the barriers you face. Many, many other people have done this, and you can do it too if you make a decent, genuine effort, and don't use your barriers as an excuse.
And at the end of the day, people around here respect when someone goes through that effort. It's not bothering to try, or claiming that you just couldn't have done better that gets the locals
really pissed off.
