I Need Some Advice.

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Well, only 2 tips to say, if you're gonna try at it, and if she'll say Yes to ya now. Even if she'll say yes, you gotta prove her it wasn't a wrongly chosen yes, after all.

1. Stay yourself. You might have the hormons for love, but if you later figure you two don't fit together, that's a big bummer. Only if the real you can be together with the real her, you'll really fit. Simple enough, right?

2. Don't ever try a too fast move. Just go bit-by-bit closer, show your personality and opinion bit-by-bit, kinda like what Digiku said. You can try a move, but make sure you don't feel like you're making a HUGE jump with it, or taking a huge risk. Or she'll be like "WTF" mostly likely at it too. You know her best, you've got the best instincts on when what's a good move.
 
These sort of questions should be poste in Yahoo! Answers by real people that have been through this sort of thing. Like me. I'm not saying all you guys haven't been on relationships. I'm just giving recommendations.

Anyway, just be yourself man. Make sure you think before you act. Always think what's going to happen if you are going to do something, or else you'll regret it.
 
No, these sorts of questions shouldn't be asked on the internet at all. These sorts of questions are what real life friends and family are for. You're just going to get stupid answers if you ask such questions online.
 
Sorry Mystic but I'm about to 1-Up you. ^_~

There's no better way than to be yourself. And if you're really unsure of how she feels, you can coax her in some way to tell you. Trust me - Girls may be very emotional and tend to keep it to themselves, but with just the right words, motivation and mood, they'll spill it faster than you can say "OSHI--". And if she's not ready, hey, she's not ready. There's no use rushing something, because that never ends up good. If you rush headlong into things you feel a certain way for a certain amount of time and then it wears off, you're pretty much screwed in the last outing. For now, I'd say keep it cool and keep your emotions in check, or else you're asking for trouble... Unless you're sure you can get her to spill how she feels about you, and if it matches how you feel about her.

Remember though; you can't use the word "love" here, so if anything this is just a crush. (I'd know; I've had a few bad run-ins with false belief in emotions many times at this point. So I'm kinda the relationship consulter, I like to believe. I just know a lot, though I prefer not to date. Got more important things to worry about, ya know!! X3)
 
There's this type of cologne you can get. It's called Sex Panther, by Odeon. It's illegal in nine countries. It's made with bits of real Panther, so you know it's good. They've done studies, y'know. 60% of the time: it works. Every time.

(Off topic) Wait how does it work every time, 60% of the time?

(On topic) I have to agree with what Mystic said, the internet isn't exactly the best place to ask for advice like this. I wish I could help out, but I'm only good at dealing with depression.
 
AGH. I REALLY need to start 'flirting'...

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O CRAP, today I forgot to offer her some 'NERDS' candy after my team won from some simplify fractions race...


AW MAN.
I guess that's okay.. I'll try tomorrow.
 
Wow, the most stupidest and pervish thing I have ever saw: One of my friends started liking her and when everytime when we would line up for just about anything, he would try to, how can I say this... feel her where she couldn't feel it. (BARFS)
 
Just wait until you get into college, there'll be more than just 'feeling up' when it comes to lines.
 
My advice is be yourself. You are already friends right? So that means she likes you for who you are. So just take it slow and it might work eventually and never try to be someone you aren't.
 
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On the contrary Mystic, the guys at Echochamber (xkcd forum) and #xkcd on Foonetic give out some of the best advice I have ever seen in my life.

Take her out places, bowling, pool/billiards/snooker (trust me, I've done it), or even round your house to watch a film (don't do cinema, you sit there and don't socialise).

In terms of the first two, a good tip is to completely obliterate her at it, then if she starts to complain about being bad, say she's not, if she asks for some help with her technique (this works great with pool/billiards/snooker) then give it to her, it gives you a chance to get close since, well, have you ever seen how you help people hold a cue? Perhaps offer some assistance, but don't by cocky about it.

And a pro-tip, don't over analyse anything, because it'll drive you nuts, there's a guy on Echo that was worried because he shook hands with a girl as a first greeting and was worried she might think he was weird and whatnot.

How old are you, may I ask (serious question, it helps to know)? I'm assuming not very old, since you're going "BARFS" over feeling.
 
Wow, the most stupidest and pervish thing I have ever saw: One of my friends started liking her and when everytime when we would line up for just about anything, he would try to, how can I say this... feel her where she couldn't feel it. (BARFS)

On the matter at hand, I'd also like to know how old you are before suggesting to do any of this to attract her.

Plus, I've already got an... ahem... Girlfriend. Though, unlike last time, the obsession is with her instead of me. Either way, though, this current relationship is rather intimate (It's been 2 months since we started dating). Plus, she seems to love anything I do and have similar interests and opinions such as myself. But with me being myself, I've been caught in the sense that maybe I'm not ready for a relationship yet although I am now 16 years of age. Which is quite ironic, when I come to think of it when I also tried to lure my friend Zoe into liking me. Last time I tried to do so she gave me extremely helpful advice:

"There are other fish in the sea."

And that there is.
 
How old are you, may I ask (serious question, it helps to know)? I'm assuming not very old, since you're going "BARFS" over feeling.

I'm 12. So.... those things about taking her around places, I can't drive.
 
Lotsa people wrote:
"...Just be yourself!" (or some varient of that)

Huh. I hear people say this all the time.

But what if your "natural self" is a sullen, suspicious pessimist? Do you try to change that or do you find somebody who's also a sullen, suspicious pessimist? Instead of "sharing happiness", can a couple "share misery", or something like that?

This is all totally hypothetically speaking, of course. :/

In that case, you might want to change your standards.

All I can say is don't worry about it. I run into a girl and can usually tell if they like me somewhat or not, so go with that.
 
Even though you can't drive, you can always get a ride to go bowling, rollerskating, etc. with friends. Being with her alone may not always work, but with friends, you got some backup if you choke, unless you need more friends. Also, don't invite anyone that might ruin the "date", and I am using that term EXTREMELY loosely.
 
Just be yourself like everyone has stated and do not worry about going out on a date or being boyfriend- girlfriend just yet.
If you are a person that give compliments about her new dress, shoes, or even hair style that seem might have.
Heck, you could even calmly say "You look really nice today," people like hearing compliments. Do not look for reaction all the time, that can set you up for stressing over some situation that is non-existant.

Do not forget to ask about her well-being, it is a good thing to show that you care how someone is doing.
You can ask questions about what does she like, if she is in some activity you could ask her how much she like that or if it is a sport how is she doing.

Stick with knowing her as a friend and everything else will come later, even if it is the same person or not.

Being wrapped around the idea of boyfriend-girlfriend and dating this early could get troublesome when about anything could happen, that can cause problems later on.

There are many possibilities one them being you will meet someone that might like you a lot or someone you would talk to normally and eventually would enjoy being around.

You never know, there might be someone better out there and that is why you should not stress over this kind of stuff.

Oh, and if she likes another person don't treat like it is end of the world because it is not.
You never know who might take notice of your personality.
 
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I'm slowly calming down, because I've been getting to her little-by-little and now I think I have a chance. Whew. Ever since she knew I started liking her, she hardly talked to me and neither have I. Thanks for all this advice.
 
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